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creators of this carrd are not

this carrd was created because of the widespread trend of using slurs which you can't reclaim! if you see any mistakes or have any questions, please contact one of us on twitter.

BEFORE WE CONTINUE!

people who have slurs:

anyone mlm (men who like men- gnc mlm, nblm, etc)

transfems

lesbians

if you arent in any of these categories, then no need to go on. there are no slurs you can reclaim other than queer, because every other slur is targetted towards another specific audience.

"but i was called [slur] before as a [sexuality/gender,] so why can't i also say it?"

almost ALL known slurs used in our community are gender/sexuality-specific.

lesbians can claim their own slur, not all wlw, because of the root meaning and the use of the word. it loses its use when someone wlw who likes men as well uses it!

the same goes for mlm- all slurs used on mlm were meant to target how they were "less masculine," so it would make no sense for someone fem aligned to use it (there are exceptions for transfems!)

alright! lets go! click on a map to navigate

(each section was written by someone who can reclaim the slurs mentioned (someone gay wrote the mlm slurs, a lesbian wrote the lesbian slurs, and someone trans (transfem) wrote the trans slurs.) there are people who helped with this carrd that did not want to have their profile shared, but feel free to contact any of the accounts linked at the end of a section if you want something fixed.)

"what does mlm mean?"

MLM is an acronym that stands for either man-loving-man or men who love men. its used by the LGTBQ+ community for a relationship involving two male presenting people. the term mlm includes bi men, gay men, pan men, masc nonbinary people, and et cetera (nblm is also a term used to refer to nonbinary people who like men since some n-bs dont feel comfy using mlm to refer to themselves)

another term often used to refer to them is achillean.

faggot and any variation of it*

the slur fag was originally targetted against guys who were considered "feminine" or dont fit in w stereotypical masculinity, e.g. assuming that men lose their masculinity by liking other men. it also extended to calling anyone who wasnt "masculine enough" to be a "real man."

people who can say this word:
anyone who is mlm, nblm, etc
transfems

*includes faggot, faggy, fag, straggot, etc

the reason nonmlm should not say straggot is because it is literally based on the f slur

pansy

this word is used against men who are seen as "effeminate" or "not man enough." it was used to call out men who liked other men or were into the arts (dance, painting, etc)

people who can use this word:
anyone who is mlm

fruit/fruity/fruitcake

the term fruit used to refer to "an easy victim-" it later became a word to represent "a soft, tender, effeminate" man

people who can use this word:
anyone who is mlm/nblm ONLY

poof

poof isnt exactly a slur, but it was a word used more commonly in australian and british english rather than american english. it originates from the phrase "poofter-bashing" (a collection of organized hate crimes against homosexual men that happened throughout the 1960s and 1970s.) it is also used on males who do not conform to society's ideas of "masculinity." calling a homosexual man this can be insulting

people who can say this word:
anyone who is mlm, nblm, etc

click on this text for another carrd for mlm slurs if you want to see more info/more opinions

"what does wlw mean?"

WLW is an acronym that stands for either woman-loving-woman or women who love women. its used by the LGTBQ+ community for a relationship involving two female presenting people. the term wlw includes lesbians especially, bi women, pan women, fem aligned nonbinary people, and et cetera. (nblw is also a term used to refer to nonbinary people who like women since some n-bs dont feel comfy using wlw to refer to themselves)


another term often used to refer to them is sapphic.

dyke

dyke is a word that has been around for a long time to put down lesbians for not being attracted to men. the MEANING of dyke is lack of attraction to men as a lesbian. the purpose of the slur is to point out their lack of attraction towards men, not their attraction towards women. other wlw can NOT say this slur because they still experience attraction to men, people who are on the ace spec spectrum also can't say it UNLESS they're also a lesbian.

people who can reclaim this slur:
lesbians ONLY

lesbo

lesbo is also a slur used against lesbians. Gay terms should not be used as an insult because there is nothing wrong with being gay. Therefore, lesbo is no different. It is offensive towards lesbians, just as dyke. If a lesbian says it, it's okay as it is THEIR slur and not for others to call them even "jokingly." (this word also means lesbian in Finnish)

people who can reclaim this slur:
lesbians ONLY

tranny

only transfems can reclaim this slur. since its a transmisogynistic slur, it should not be reclaimed by transmascs

shemale

this slur is used to refer to pre-op transfems (women who havent had both top and bottom surgery done.) the slur shemale is VERY disrespectful

only transfems can reclaim this slur.

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