lets get one thing straight: the
creators of this carrd are not
this carrd was created because of the widespread trend of using slurs which you can't reclaim! if you see any mistakes or have any questions, please contact one of us on twitter.
BEFORE WE CONTINUE!
people who have slurs:
anyone mlm (men who like men- gnc mlm, nblm, etc)
if you arent in any of these categories, then no need to go on. there are no slurs you can reclaim other than queer, because every other slur is targetted towards another specific audience.
"but i was called [slur] before as a [sexuality/gender,] so why can't i also say it?"
almost ALL known slurs used in our community are gender/sexuality-specific.
lesbians can claim their own slur, not all wlw, because of the root meaning and the use of the word. it loses its use when someone wlw who likes men as well uses it!
the same goes for mlm- all slurs used on mlm were meant to target how they were "less masculine," so it would make no sense for someone fem aligned to use it (there are exceptions for transfems!)
alright! lets go! click on a map to navigate
(each section was written by someone who can reclaim the slurs mentioned (someone gay wrote the mlm slurs, a lesbian wrote the lesbian slurs, and someone trans (transfem) wrote the trans slurs.) there are people who helped with this carrd that did not want to have their profile shared, but feel free to contact any of the accounts linked at the end of a section if you want something fixed.)
"what does mlm mean?"
MLM is an acronym that stands for either man-loving-man or men who love men. its used by the LGTBQ+ community for a relationship involving two male presenting people. the term mlm includes bi men, gay men, pan men, masc nonbinary people, and et cetera (nblm is also a term used to refer to nonbinary people who like men since some n-bs dont feel comfy using mlm to refer to themselves)
another term often used to refer to them is achillean.
faggot and any variation of it*
the slur fag was originally targetted against guys who were considered "feminine" or dont fit in w stereotypical masculinity, e.g. assuming that men lose their masculinity by liking other men. it also extended to calling anyone who wasnt "masculine enough" to be a "real man."
people who can say this word:
anyone who is mlm, nblm, etc
*includes faggot, faggy, fag, straggot, etc
the reason nonmlm should not say straggot is because it is literally based on the f slur